Welcome to my Reflections

In my last reflections I wrote about learning to stay with openness, and then about the moment when the search for self begins to soften. Both of those inquiries have been pointing toward something I am only just beginning to recognise more clearly. If the search for identity loosens, and if openness becomes something we […]

When the Search for Self Exhausts Itself In my last reflection I wrote about learning to stay with openness. At the time I shared how uncomfortable that openness felt — how unfamiliar it was to remain present without immediately trying understand, make meaning or story of the experience. Since then the inquiry has continued, though […]

A reflection on restlessness, openness, and living without organising life around “me” More space — and what it reveals I’m noticing how much space there is in my life right now.More time. Fewer external demands. Less structure telling me who I am or what I should be moving toward. On one level, this feels like […]

In many leadership conversations, politics is treated as a dirty word. “I don’t do politics.”“It feels manipulative.”“That’s not how I want to lead.” I hear this frequently from senior women leaders — highly competent, strategic, resilient women who have already proven themselves through performance. Yet, as they move into the most senior levels of organisations, […]

Becoming a better leader today isn’t about doing more.  It’s about becoming more present, regulated and alive. This Is Embodied Leadership. Most of the leaders I work with are already highly capable. They are intelligent, experienced, emotionally aware, and successful by any external measure. They know how to perform, decide, influence, and deliver. And yet, […]

What if leadership didn’t require us to leave parts of ourselves behind? What If Aliveness Was Your Leadership Advantage? These questions sit at the heart of my work. I’m curious about what becomes possible when leadership no longer comes only from drive, endurance, and performance — but also from the body, from emotional truth, and […]

After writing Learning to Trust Desire as Deep Discernment, I kept reflecting on the other side of the coin — the edge where desire can both illuminate and consume. Because not all desire leads us closer to truth.Some desire pulls us away from it. When Desire Is DangerousDesire becomes dangerous when it’s unconscious — when […]

Four hours on the road today, just me and my active mind.It never stops inquiring — always searching for the pattern beneath the story, the meaning behind the moment, the source of it all. My discerning, curious mind has been such a loyal companion. It protects, questions, analyses, and ensures I feel safe and live […]

Have you ever felt like you’re standing in the hallway of your own life — one door closing, another not yet open — and you don’t know which way to turn?That’s not failure or confusion. It’s the liminal zone — the space between identities, where the old is falling away and the new hasn’t yet […]

Understanding the States of Consciousness A number of years ago while part of a Coaches Rising course, I came across talk by Jim Dethmer on the 4 states of consciousness. He offered a version of this profound age-old wisdom on how we see life and therefore how we experience it. We are constantly moving between […]