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Part 1, I explored how Why the Fear of “Looking Stupid” Runs So Deep and then in Part 2 When Fear of Being Seen Becomes Shame. Now I explore how it begins to shape how we relate to others and to ourselves. Performing rather than relating When there is a fear of being seen as […]

In Part 1, I explored how what looks like a lack of confidence is often a fear of being seen as inadequate — of “looking stupid,” of not knowing, or getting it wrong. However, there is another layer to this. Over time, these moments of exposure don’t just stay as experiences. Instead, they become internalised. […]

This is Part 1 of a short series exploring what sits underneath what we often call “confidence issues.” There’s a pattern I see often in my work, and it’s easy to misunderstand at first. A client presents with what looks like a confidence issue. They want to feel more secure, more self-assured, and less affected […]